Dear Frustrated Female,
Re: Chiangmai Mail No. 17, Mailbag letter, Ethics: I just
had to answer immediately when I read your letter today as I agree and can
confirm everything you experienced during your first 5 months in Thailand.
But just to make you happy, it will not get better, but worse in regards to
living as a ‘farang woman’ in Thailand. The only advice I can give you
is: Make sure you leave the country as often as possible. Believe me, you
are very sensitive at the moment but in other countries all is also not
sunshine and apple pie. Maybe on a different scale but definitely as many
ethical irritations as in Thailand. And you will be happy every time you
arrive again at CNX airport.
Try to block disturbances to your equanimity as you will
not change anything even though you might try hard to ‘educate’. Take
Thais as they are as the product of a different cultural base and
concentrate on other things. Firstly look to the positive, the tolerance,
graciousness and friendly natures of most Thais, then the low-priced living
conditions, the very cheap flowers to decorate your home, the relatively
large selection of first class restaurants with affordable prices in Chiang
Mai, the cultural experiences, the theatre, movies, and a community of
expats who are mostly more than willing to include you in any activity of
your choice. I bet if you address this issue again you will find out that it
isn’t so bad after all.
Ellen (lived here for 5.5 years already)