Friend has awful girlfriend
I am not sure what to do, my dear friend has the worst girlfriend. She says
awful things not only to his face but behind his back. He seems to think her
insults are “endearments” even though he does speak enough Thai to realize
that these are not kind words. The things she says behind his back are even
worse. Within earshot of me, knowing I understand Thai to some degree, she
tells her friends he is stupid, a “kwai” and that she is only with him
because she doesn’t have anybody more interesting right now. She doesn’t
have many friends, Thai or western, because she is a really spiteful person.
For the life of me, I cannot understand what he sees in this woman or why he
insists on staying with her. He claims that she doesn’t really mean it and
that she loves him.
I doubt that very highly.
I have tried to tell him but he just won’t listen. It is going to all end
very badly and everyone can see it but him. Can I do anything?
There are a few old sayings that cover this issue; “love is blind” and “you
can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink”. Well, consider him
a blind horse. You have had your say and if you feel that you have made
yourself clear enough there is nothing else you can do. Any more efforts to
change his mind will only sour your friendship and it sounds like he will
need it sooner rather than later.
Some people never learn, you must also realize. So he may continue this
pattern of abusive relationships. You will need to evaluate just how much
you love this person and if you can handle the constant drama and pain in
your life if he does so.
How to bargain?
I am fairly new to Chiang Mai and I am not really sure how to bargain. I
come from a country where the price is the price and yet sometimes I find
myself in situations where the shopkeeper is offended if I try to get the
price down. Is it allowed in every shop or just some? Please help me to get
it right, I don’t want to offend people.
Yes it can seem confusing. In the Sunday Walking Street or Saturday night
market you may haggle over the prices, it is expected in fact. However, do
not go too low, you will tell when you do because the shopkeeper will refuse
to even discuss it with you. Fixed price shops are pretty obvious, they have
price tags. If the shop has no price tags on their goods, then ask. If it
seems high then see if they will go lower.
One thing to remember is to always haggle in a friendly manner. Smile and
laugh and keep it lighthearted. If they won’t go down enough for you then
don’t be afraid to walk away. You may always find it elsewhere. However, if
it is something you have not found in other shops and is something you
really want then be prepared to bite the bullet and pay the price if you
Weird phone calls on my girlfriend’s cell phone
My girlfriend is Thai and has been receiving strange phone calls claiming to
be from banks or insurance companies and wanting her personal details. She
never answers them and hangs up but is there something she can do to stop
these calls? Can she report them?
Sick of scammers
Yes I have heard of people receiving these calls. Apparently they somehow
manage to find out enough details of the person to make the calls quite
convincing, A friend of mine received one purporting to be from the police
and another from an “insurance company”. This is what is called phishing.
That is, they are trying to get as much personal information as possible
from your girlfriend in order to steal her identity, perhaps open credit
cards in her name or obtain loans of some kind. Never give any information
out over the phone! If you receive one of these calls call your phone
service provider and report the number, it is almost always a mobile number.
In fact, call all of them. You may even want to consider calling the company
the people are pretending to belong to so they can warn their customers. And
never give out information over the phone!
I am a licenced driver in my home country and would like to obtain a
Thailand driver’s licence. How do I go about doing this? Do I need to take
another driving test?
First of all, you need to get a simple medical certificate from a doctor,
most GP’s can provide this, the fee is 100 baht. Then you need to go to the
Immigration Office and obtain a certificate of residence. If they are not
issuing them (there were stories they stopped but also that they restarted)
then your consulate will issue one. You then take your passport, your home
country driver’s licence and the certificate of residence to the Department
of Land Transportation, they have an office on the Hang Dong Road past the
Tesco.. You will need to take an eye test, a color blindness test and a
reaction test. Assuming you pass, they will take your photo and issue you
with a one year licence. A year later you will need to come back to renew
and then you will be given a five year licence.
Best of luck!