My editor reported to me that recently a gentleman tried to contact me in
regards to emails received by me from readers. These emails are anonymous
and Emma would not divulge any information on the sender to anyone so my
apologies if there was some unhappiness or misunderstanding in regards to
this issue. Please understand that my readers’ personal privacy is
Mental Health Professionals
I am attempting to understand the mental health needs of the expat community
in Chiang Mai. The best I can tell is there are very few English speaking
professionals providing counseling.
Is this, based on your understanding, accurate?
I’ve been to Thailand and Chiang Mai many times, but now I’m looking much
more closely at retiring there. I have worked in Bangkok and understand the
Thinking of retiring
A few months ago there was a query regarding mental health professionals in
Chiang Mai and several people emailed in with a few suggestions. So, yes
very few would be an accurate description.
So, since you say you understand the work permit process then you certainly
don’t need my advice but Emma would be irresponsible to not point out that a
“retirement visa” is precisely just that; for retirement only. If you wish
to work then you would need to have a non-B visa (or a non-O based on
marriage if your wife or husband is Thai).
There is, Emma believes, a growing need for this in Chiang Mai, it has many
foreigners living here now, many of them older or elderly and coping with
change can be difficult and painful.
Best of luck in your new venture should you choose it!
My neighbor is hard of hearing
I live in a condo in the city and my next door neighbor is a lovely elderly
man, very friendly and sweet but extremely hard of hearing. He turns the
television on extremely loudly. During the day it is not a problem as I work
but sometimes he cannot sleep and he turns it on in the middle of the night
waking me up. Another time he turned it on very early in the morning
interrupting my sleep.
So, I talked to him about it and he flatly denied that he had turned the
television on at all! Finally, after some discussion he admitted that yes,
it was his television but it was not loud. I am at a loss. I don’t want to
create bad feelings but his TV is very loud! I can hear the dialogue in my
room it is that loud. I don’t want to move because of this but it happens
regularly enough that it is making my life a misery. What can I do?
Sleepless in Chiang Mai
Firstly please try talking to your neighbor again. He may not realize it is
so loud. If he refuses to do anything about it then you will have to file a
complaint with the management, I am afraid. Your sleep is more important
than his need to watch television in the middle of the night.
Silly facebook requests
I am not a regular user of Facebook like many of my friends but I do like to
read it to see what is happening in the lives of my friends and family. I
live a rather quiet retired life so I do not have a lot to say other than
what fish in my fish tank has died or that my dog caught a rat.
I do not mind the food photos that abound although I really do not care to
see what someone has had for dinner. I do enjoy the photos of my
grandchildren and those of my sister’s grandchildren and sometimes wish my
children would put up a few more!
However, my major complaint has to be all the requests to play some silly
game on Facebook. I didn’t grow up playing video games, I never had the time
to waste on such foolishness. Now that I do have the time to waste on
foolish games I have no interest in them. I also have no interest in the
endless requests to play these games. I do not want to appear to be a grumpy
old man but I am thinking of making a post on my Facebook telling people to
not ask me to join these things. Would that be rude?
Grumpy Old Man
You can call Emma a grumpy old woman then because she finds the games
annoying too. There is a simple way to hide the posts of your friends
playing these games and to ensure the requests do not make it to your mail
box. Firstly, you can click on the little box hovering over the post and
hide all posts by Candy Crush or Farmville or whatever game is posted. Then
go into your settings and click on notifications. You can see from there how
to turn off the notifications. They will still show up in the sidebar I am
afraid but click on the little “X” next to the notice and it will go away.
Facebook needs to offer an option to block all requests to play some games
but I am sure they make money off of this in some way or another so that is
most likely a pipe dream on Emma’s part to ever hope that it will go way.
Facebook is a wonderful tool for those of us who live far away from our
loved ones but for many it has become an addiction and they relentlessly
post every single aspect of their life; from the food they eat to what time
they wake up to every little spat and argument they have online. They post
deeply personal things on Facebook that probably should not be made public.
Facebook has made everyone’s lives an open book and I think that its
encouraged a sort of narcissism that makes people think every aspect of
their lives is interesting to everyone and that everyone shares the same
interests. Ergo, they love playing games on Facebook, surely you must love