girlfriend likes to flirt with other guys
My Thai girlfriend and I have a busy social life, mainly due to her job as a
PR person with a local business, sometimes I go with her but mostly she goes
alone or with her boss. I don’t mind that these events keep her busy; it is
her job after all. However, when I have gone with her to events I have found
her flirting with the other men. I have asked some people I know who also
attend these functions when I don’t go and the ones who are willing to be
honest with me agree that she is flirting.
When I talk to her about it she usually just laughs at me. She always denies
it and tells me I am being too jealous but I don’t think that is true. I am
not normally a jealous guy and I don’t think I see things that are not real.
I don’t like it, it makes it seem as though she is available and it seems to
me that she has no respect for me at all.
Am I overreacting? I am not sure I can live with this and I don’t know if
our relationship can go anywhere when she behaves this way and with the way
Not a jealous man
Well, what is one person’s friendly is another person’s flirting. Perhaps
she is, perhaps she is not. Your friends may be telling you what they think
you want to hear or perhaps your suggestion coloured their perceptions of
her behavior. Or perhaps she really is flirting with men.
What you have to decide is whether or not you trust her answer. Does she
really believe that she is not flirting or do you think she is lying to you?
If you do not believe her then things are not going well. If you cannot
trust her then the relationship is probably not going to succeed.
You have a decision to make and that decision is based more on yourself than
My housekeeper asked me for a loan
I have had a wonderful housekeeper for a few years and she has always done
an excellent job. However, the past few months her work has slipped. I
finally asked her what was going on and she said she had eye problems and
the doctor told her she needed surgery. She then asked me for a loan to have
the surgery done because she couldn’t afford it.
I realize that Thailand has free medical care for Thai people but my maid is
Burmese. She is legal, she has the work document and i.d. papers, I made
sure of that. But I am not sure if she qualifies for medical care under the
Thai social security system or not. As she is Burmese she is very suspicious
of authorities and is hesitant to ask someone if she is eligible or not.
Can anyone assist me in finding out if she can get medical treatment or not?
I can’t really afford to give her the money for the surgery and I know that
she cannot afford to pay me back as she has family to take care of.
Want to help my maid
I found an interesting article in the Nation newspaper in regards to this,
stating that many documented workers do not receive the health care benefits
they are legally entitled to. However, as to your housekeeper it would
require that you pay into the social security system for your staff. The
employees are required to pay 4 percent of their salaries to the system and
you as the employer pay a matching 4 percent.
If you do not speak Thai find someone who does and go to the Social Security
office with your employee and register her immediately. While she is
required to pay the 4 percent if you feel she cannot afford it you can pay
it for her. Consider it a bonus for good work.
The Social Security Office is located in the City Hall on Mae Rim Road. Once
she has this card she can then obtain free to low cost medical care at the
Wow it is cold!
This is my first winter in Chiang Mai and I while I used to laugh quietly at
the notion of winter in Chiang Mai I am no longer laughing. It is really
cold! I live in the typical cement condo building and it is freezing. Last
month was so cold I bundled up in extra blankets. Now it is cold again. I
didn’t realize it would get so cold or for so long. I am thinking of buying
some kind of space heater. A friend told me that he saw one at the Mae Sai
border but that seems quite far to go for a space heater. However if it’s
the only place to get one then I will go to Mae Sai to buy one. Emma, do you
have any suggestions on where to buy a space heater?
Shivering in Chiang Mai
Indeed it has been quite cold. I understand it is the coldest it has been
for 20 years! So it is no surprise that you and many others have been caught
unawares. I have heard that there are heating units in Mae Sai but I
understand they come over the border from China so I would be wary of buying
A friend told me she had heard from someone that they were available at Big
C or maybe Home Pro. Personally, I would try Home Pro first but you never
know with these superstores. I am afraid I cannot tell you how much this
person paid for it, or even if they are still available but it would be
worth a search. You may just find that they were sold out during the last