I used to be a regular user of Facebook, I enjoyed seeing photos of my
friends and family back home, keeping in touch with their lives and with
those people I have met on my travels. However, lately, I find myself
uninterested in Facebook as more and more people seem to forget what makes
it unique and interesting and post inane and boring comments. The latest is
a “game” where someone posts something ridiculous, bringing a comment from a
friend. That friend is then sent a message that they “must” repost something
equally inane and ridiculous from a list of statuses given.
On more than one occasion I have refused to play this “game”. It is silly,
demeaning and pointless. I have no interest in these things. Honestly, these
silly things and the move away from interesting posts to inanity has made
Facebook far less appealing.
I think I will be taking a break from Facebook for a while now. I don’t
expect that things will get better while I am away but perhaps I will find
it all less annoying when I return.
Fed up with foolishness
Dear Fed up,
Emma understands your feelings, she too finds these re-posts silly. But it
is simply silliness and doesn’t make the rest of the benefits of the system
any less. Emma simply ignores the silliness and tries to focus on the
interesting. Like most things in life, one is often surrounded by silliness
that one can do nothing about. It is easier on one’s blood pressure to
simply let it slide right on by.
How do I get my ex-girlfriend out
of my house?
I have found myself in the same position as many it would seem, my Thai
girlfriend refuses to leave my rented house. Short of moving out, I am
not sure what to do. She gets near violence when I try to talk to her
about leaving and she is making my life miserable with her screaming and
arguing. We have not been together very long, about a year, so I can’t
understand why she thinks she is “owed” anything. We never married, we
never even discussed it.
I can tell you one thing, Emma, that is the last time I have a girl move
in with me!
Stuck with ex
Emma is a little unclear as to why there is an issue. Your name is on
the lease, she presumes, the landlord rents to you. Tell the girl to
leave. She obviously sees some kind of hesitation in you and thinks to
exploit your weakness. If need be, simply pack her things, leave it out
front and change the locks. If you live in a security estate tell the
guards she is no longer welcome in the mooban. If you live in a condo,
do the same with the security guards at the front door.
If this is more confrontation than you are willing to cope with then you
will need to hand in your notice and move out of your home. Make sure
the landlord realizes the issue and offer to pay to change the locks so
that the next tenant does not find him or herself with a sudden
However, Emma always finds herself rather amazed at these stories and
how you manage to find yourself unable to come up with such a simple
solution. As her American friend puts it, “Man up”.
Annoying know it all in coffee shop
I was recently in a coffee shop and was forced to listen to the
trumpeting voice of a particularly obnoxious American man who “knew it
all”. Rather than be accused of anti-American bias, let me first make it
clear that he said he was American. I couldn’t miss it; in fact, nobody
in the what had been a peaceful coffee shop prior to his arrival could
He was so busy congratulating himself on his extensive knowledge and
superior skills with Thai people that he not only refused to allow his
companion a word in edgeways but also failed to notice that his loud
voice and obnoxious manners drove out a majority of the Thai patrons as
This man even had to temerity to announce, “I have been here ten years
and seen it all.” Well, that is certainly quite a pronouncement from a
man who could barely order his food in Thai, much less hold a
I, too, fled the coffee-shop, I felt quite bad for the long suffering
owner as this man had also made it clear that it was his favourite shop
and that he visited it regularly. Well, although the coffee was good,
the coffee-shop pleasant and the owner seemed to be a very nice man,
this will be the last time I visit this particular coffee-shop. The man
was more obnoxiousness in one place than my sanity could tolerate.
Seeking peace and quiet
Yes unfortunately, every once in a while people such as these invade our
personal spaces and destroy a peaceful and pleasant atmosphere. As you
noted, although this man was American they do not have a monopoly on the
behavior. Be grateful he didn’t start up expounding on his experience as
a trained Navy SEAL or some such nonsense.
Emma has a similar problem, although this one is not due to any
arrogance on the part of the perpetrator. My favorite coffee shop is
often invaded by a young local couple with their toddler. The child is
certainly adorable and the staff delights in teasing and playing with
the child. Unfortunately, their idea of playing with the child is to
encourage it to scream at the top of her tiny little lungs. Whilst many
Thai people seem to be able to overlook this high pitched screech, Emma
is afraid she has not been able to learn the ability to shut this sound
out. Its reminiscent of fingernails on a chalkboard.
Whenever I see the couple enter, I gather my things, pay my bill and
leave. I like this shop and like the owner and can overlook the
occasional inconvenience. Emma suggests you do the same and not allow
this annoying person to control your life and your choices.