I am a curvaceous woman with hips larger than my waist.
Trying to find trousers that fit is incredibly difficult. If they fit my
small waist then I cannot get them up over my hips. If they are big enough
for my hips they gap at the waist and are far too large.
I look around and while I see that yes, many Thai women
have very small hips that are not much larger than their waist I also see
many Thai women who do not have this slender shape with no curves.
Where do the curvy Thai ladies go to buy clothes?
Not large but curvy
Emma feels your pain, many foreign women and yes, Thai
women as well, suffer from this same problem. Those curvy on top cannot find
blouses that do not gap at the buttons, those curvy on the bottom cannot
find trousers that fit at the waist.
I am not sure where the Thai ladies go, I suspect they
suffer in silence. Or just buy the bigger sizes and wear their belts cinched
around their waists so that their trousers do not fall down. One alternative
is to have clothes tailored for you. Ask around and you can find a
seamstress who is willing to copy your favourite pair of trousers. You buy
the fabric, she will copy the original. This is generally not that expensive
and you then get custom clothes.
Or you can do what many of the other women here do,
buy your clothes when you go back to your home country.
If it is any consolation, many foreign men have a
similar problem being rather tall or much bigger than your average Thai man.
So sympathise with that 6 foot man you see sometimes, he has difficulty as
My neighbor is a Songkran Scrooge. He complains endlessly
about Songkran every single year. He starts complaining by mid-March! A full
month of endless complaining. I used to smile and try to encourage him to
leave the area or to stay inside. I used to try to be nice. But after four
years of listening to his incessant complaining I gave up. Now I nod and
smile and walk on. If I see him get into the elevator I wait for the next
one, making some pretense of a phone call or something. I can barely speak
to him even when it is not Songkran. He is so negative I just cannot listen
to him any longer.
Am I rude Emma? Should I try harder to understand him? I
am really unsure as to what to do here, I do try to be nice to people and I
know the man is alone but I can’t help but wonder if he is alone because he
is so negative all the time!
Sick of my neighbor
Well whilst not everyone loves Songkran neither is it
necessary to torment one’s neighbors with one’s own unhappiness. Emma
suggests that instead of smiling or politely nodding, which may be taken as
encouragement, that you try a simple, “Oh I am so sorry to hear that, I LOVE
Songkran, it is my favorite holiday,” with as much childish enthusiasm you
can muster and then pull our your mobile and excuse yourself to take an
imaginary phone call.
Most likely he will be stunned into silence and
finally realise that you are not sympathetic to his negativity and
hopefully, leave you alone!
I was recently in Kad Suan Kaew and saw clothes for sale
on the main floor that claimed to be Korean fashion. They didn’t really look
that different to me but what do I know? Also, I have WeTV and I see that
Channel V seems obsessed with Korean pop music. Some of it is catchy and the
dancing is good but they are really overboard on playing it.
Finally, also on WeTv, I see they play Korean soap operas
regularly. What is the obsession with Korean fashion and music? Was it
started by that Gangnam style guy who was popular last year (or was it two
Frankly, it is a bit tedious, especially the music, but
if it is more than a fad then I guess I need to get used to it.
Well, firstly it is important to remember that Korea
and Japan (also another source of teenage trends in Thailand) are far closer
to Thailand than is Europe or the United States or Australia. It makes
logical sense that trends would move here from there much faster and be more
popular than those from the West.
Add in the fact that Korean popular culture is cute,
funky and fun and it is not surprising that Thai teens embrace that. Emma
understands that the music can be a bit monotonous but hasn’t a lot of teen
culture been that way over the years?
Obnoxious drunk friend
I have a friend, not a close friend but more of an
acquaintance, although someone I see quite regularly, who is usually quite a
nice person. Except when he is drunk and unfortunately he gets drunk rather
more frequently than is good for him and everyone around him.
Mainly because he is not a pleasant drunk, he starts out
alright then gets more and more aggressive, eventually getting angry at some
poor service person or some other hapless soul who doesn’t manage to fly
under his radar. Then he gets nasty and often times racist. I am waiting for
the day he does this to the wrong person and gets beaten up.
I don’t believe he is an alcoholic but really, he should
not be drinking alcohol, it is very unpleasant.
I don’t know what to do, to be honest. I am thinking of
completely dropping the acquaintance since it is all really too much
Not a friend of drunks
Dear Not a Friend,
Emma would suggest you drop him as an acquaintance.
People like that tend to suck others into their whirlpool of anger and you
do not need to get involved in the trouble this person will surely
encounter. Also, Emma believes that the person you see drunk is most likely
the real person as they would be if they didn’t have social inhibitions.
Alcohol releases those inhibitions and the real person shines through. Or in
this case, glares through.