of investigating my girlfriend
I work overseas for weeks at a time and spend my off time
in Chiang Mai. I met a girl I really like and we share a house together but
when I come home it feels strange and I have found things there that don’t
belong to me, men’s things. Nothing obvious like underwear but still, it
makes me wonder. She claims her nephew comes to stay with her when I am away
as she is scared to be alone in the house but I find that hard to believe. I
am thinking of hiring someone to check on her while I am away and to see if
the person staying in our house is really her 15 year old nephew.
Tell me I am wrong here, Emma and I will reconsider but I
have read and heard far too many stories about unfaithful girlfriends and
wives introducing their Thai boyfriend as their brother to not feel
While yes these stories are true and it is something
to consider it is also important that Thai people generally do not feel
comfortable alone and women feel less comfortable living alone in the
country. A good friend of mine had her mother-in-law show up on her doorstep
with her bag packed for the week when her husband went on business to
Bangkok. She had not asked her to come and did not expect it but neither did
she ask her to leave. She told me later that it was quite normal for a
relative to come stay with a woman when her husband was away.
So, before hiring an investigator perhaps ask to meet
the nephew first. If she hems and haws and delays then consider hiring the
investigator but be aware that if you are already that suspicious then the
relationship is probably not going to be successful. Something to consider
sooner rather than later.
I live in a small village on the outskirts of Chiang Mai
and it seems to me that my neighbors have very little to do except gossip
about each other. Since I have moved in I have also become a topic of
interest to the bored housewives in my village. I am a single man and do not
have a Thai girlfriend and that seems to bother them to no end. I don’t dare
bring any woman home for I know it will only fuel their passion for talk. I
moved here thinking it would be quiet and peaceful, and while it mostly is
(a few crowing roosters aside), the incessant nosiness of my neighbors is
making me re-think this village. Is this normal in Thailand? Is there
somewhere to avoid gossips?
Not a gossip
Welcome to village life. It does not matter one jot
what country you may live in, if you live in a small village there will be
gossip. Even if you live in a large town or city there will still be
opportunities for gossip. Emma lives in the city and whilst it’s mainly
mostly anonymous in the city, the security guards at the condo enjoy
gossiping about the residents. It is a fact of life, not just in Thailand
but human nature, Emma believes. Certainly there are individuals who abhor
gossip but there are also individuals who love it and Emma does not believe
it is a purely cultural trait.
So, you can certainly move to another small village
but you will encounter the same behaviors there as you do now. You have to
decide to not let it annoy you and to just smile and get on with your life
and not care what the gossips have to say. Or you can care and let it rule
your life, it is your choice how you want to cope with this issue.
Bicycle repair and parts?
My friend left town and gave me her rather beaten up
mountain bike. I intend on riding it but it needs a lot of work. The seat is
easily replaced as I found one at Tesco Khamtieng but the rest of it is a
mess. It needs new tires, it needs the gears oiled. In short, it needs a
bicycle repair shop. However, being new to this I am really not sure where
to go with this bike to get it fixed. Do you or any of the readers here have
any suggestions? I don’t need to buy a new one, the bike is quite good, I
just want it to be safe.
There are only a couple around that Emma knows of,
Jacky bike is one – I believe it is on Nimmanhaemin, Song Bicycle on the
moat has parts, they may be able to help you with repairs as well. I
understand that there are some shops on Chang Moi that sell parts but Emma
is uncertain if they repair cycles as well. It certainly never hurts to ask
if you are in the neighborhood. Other than that, I do now know, perhaps some
of our cyclist friends in Chiang Mai may have some notion.
My girlfriend does not like my dog
I have a wonderful dog I rescued from the streets several
years ago. She is friendly and loving and a wonderful guard dog as well as
companion. She is not aggressive in any way but is protective of me. She
likes my girlfriend well enough and is friendly to her but my girlfriend
does not like her. She thinks my dog is too common, having been a street dog
and that I should get rid of her and get something cuter and smaller.
I really cannot believe that she said that to me, she
knows how attached I am to my dog. Is she really so uncaring as to think I
should just dump this dog that I have spent so much time to nurture and take
care of? What should I do?
Dear Dog lover,
You might want to remind your girlfriend of the love
His Majesty the King has for Thai dogs and how he adopted some for himself.
Alternatively, dump the shallow girlfriend who clearly does not see dogs as
members of the family but as fashion accessories and find a girlfriend who
loves dogs as much as you do. She doesn’t sound like much of a keeper to