all the screaming?
This may have been brought up before, I cannot imagine that any right
thinking foreigner living in Thailand is not also as equally disturbed as I.
It is the soap operas on Thai television. My girlfriend loves them, the more
screaming, violence and general horrible behaviour the better it seems.
This latest one takes the cake, wins the prize, whatever superlative you
want to use for the most horrifically loud show ever. One character, when
she was not gunning people down in cold blood, was screaming her head off.
That was more screaming than I need in a lifetime.
Another show apparently had a character who was raped and then she fell in
love with her rapist. That is just appalling. Even more appalling than the
casual way physical abuse is treated in these programmes.
I do not understand these shows. They are all equally awful, there seems to
be almost no interesting drama or crime shows on Thai television. There are
just these awful soap operas and equally awful but in a different sort of
way, game shows. Of course there is always cable or Truevisions I suppose. I
like the documentaries and interesting shows there but my girlfriend prefers
her screaming soaps and so screaming soaps it is. Turned on at a very high
volume as well, it seems most of the time.
I have gotten to the point that when she turns on these shows I either leave
the room or, better yet, leave the house, head to the nearest western owned
bar and watch the football.
At least there the screaming is done either in the stadiums or on the pitch
by the coach.
Fed up with the screaming
Dear Fed Up,
Emma can’t help but agree with you, these shows are awful. In fact, I do not
think I know a single foreigner living in Thailand who can abide these
shows. If there are any, well, they must be an incredibly small minority.
Emma has heard that Thai soaps have a kinship with the equally awful
telenovelas on Spanish speaking television in the Americas. However, Emma
has heard that these Latin American dramas have a wider variety of plotlines
than Thai shows but has no direct experience with them herself.
Do not despair for Thailand however, they are producing some excellent
films, including the soon to be released “The Last Executioner” which Emma
plans on seeing in the theatres. Take your girlfriend to see this film, or
another quality Thai film, so as to introduce her to something that has
style, taste, intelligence and interest. Perhaps it will rub off on her
viewing habits. Even if it doesn’t at least you will have seen something
worth watching other than the footie.
Help! My colleague’s wife is flirting with me!
I have a serious problem at work, one of my work colleagues (I am his
superior at work, I should note) has a slightly younger wife who continues
to flirt with me at work related events. She even comes into the office,
ostensibly to visit her husband but she always drops by my office to bring
me some snack or gift and to flirt. At first I thought perhaps she was just
trying to make things easier for her husband at work by being nice to the
boss but recently her overtures have been of a more sexual nature.
I can’t imagine that she thinks she can sleep her husband’s way to the top
so perhaps she really is attracted to me. Either way, it is incredibly
inappropriate and makes working with this man very uncomfortable.
I have made it clear to her I am not interested, I am happily married with
the love of my life and two gorgeous kids. However, this woman seems to
think that because my wife is not Thai I am fair game. I am not fair game, I
am not interested and she is starting to jeopardize her husband’s position
with her behavior.
What should I do Emma? Should I tell him what his wife is up to? Or just
make it clear to her that if she continues not only will she not get her
prize but her husband could lose his job?
He is good at what he does but honestly, he is not worth the hassle she
Not fair game
Dear Not fair,
This seems to be a new twist on an old story. Emma suggests that you talk to
her first. Do not be nice, do not be sweet. Be serious and be strong and
tell her in a very firm and no-nonsense tone that she had better stop now or
you will fire her husband from his job and tell him why he is fired.
Make it clear to her that you mean business. If that does not work then tell
the husband that he needs to call his wife off or he is out of a job.
There really is no need for you to tolerate this kind of behavior and it
certainly cannot help your wife any knowing that such a predator is eying
Best of luck,
I love to garden but live in a condo
I love gardening but have a small balcony so can’t really get in the dirt
and dig. In New York City where I am from they have community gardens –
there is a small rent to be paid but in it the gardener can grow whatever he
or she wants; flowers, vegetables but not big trees of course. Does Chiang
Mai have anything like this? And if so, where? If not, why not? And is there
anywhere I can go to volunteer to help garden?
Emma does not know of any community gardens in Chiang Mai. Given the limited
space and expensive real estate it is unlikely any private landowner would
turn over their valuable property to gardeners. She has heard that there is
one in the Pong Noi neighborhood (behind Wat Umong) and near Wat Pong Noi
but does not know if it is still in use or if it would be available for
those living outside the neighborhood.
Apologies for the negative response, perhaps one of our readers has a
suggestion for you.