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Call for blankets and warm clothing

Enabling an Addiction and an Addict


Call for blankets and warm clothing

Uttaradit province declared disaster zone

Uttardit has been declared a disaster zone as the current cold wave continues bringing frigid temperatures to residents in all nine districts. Uttaradit Disaster Prevention and Mitigation chief Surachai Tatkawin said the temperatures in the province have continually dropped, causing more victims to be affected by the cold.

There are over 60,000 people lacking adequate bedclothing in the nine districts covering 613 villages. Initially, about 12,000 blankets have been distributed to help the victims. Mr Surachai said another 50,000 blankets are being asked for more assistance through the public sector and related agencies.Meanwhile, the districts will verify the number of people still needing more clothing and other warm items, while a centre to help aid cold victims at a sub-district level should be set up in the province. (MCOT/TNA).


Enabling an Addiction and an Addict

By Alastair Mordey

Many situations that involve a drug or alcohol addiction, a loved one is enabling the addiction. Before one can understand how they are enabling an addict, they must understand what it means. Enabling an addiction occurs when loved ones try to “help” an addict, when in actuality they are not helping at all. The enabler takes away any consequences from the addict’s behavior, these consequences are crucial because they may drive the addict to want to change. In other words an addict is able to get away with anything because there is always someone there to clean up their mess.

Many people assume that only a close family member or friend can enable an addiction. However, enabling an addiction cam be instigated by various individuals; such as, parents, siblings, friends, co-workers, neighbors, and even doctors or therapists. Generally anytime someone is covering up for the addict by giving/loaning money, finishing work/chores, lying or making up excuses, or generally ignoring behaviors that should have some kind of repercussion, is enabling.

Unfortunately, many loved ones enable an addiction through their well intentioned desire to help the addict. More often than not, the addict is completely aware that the enabler will protect them from any consequences; by knowing this the addict not only takes complete advantage of the situation, but also lessens their desire to get treatment.

Enabling behavior typically begins very slowly and gets worse over time. It may begin with the enabler keeping the addict’s abuse a secret from others; this is called denial. Denial plays a key in anyone’s addiction; it is also part of enabling. The enabler may make various rationalizations, try to minimize the problem, or ignore it and hope that it goes away. This is unfortunate, because addiction does not work this way. Eventually the enabler will get caught in a never ending cycle.

Eventually the enabler may begin to feel fear or shame about the situation at hand. They begin to try their best to keep things together; while inside frustration and anger is building up. When this happens, these emotions can be overwhelming, and they refuse to continue making up excuses for the addict’s behavior. Because of the stress and other emotions involved it may be very negative and aggressive. Whenever anyone is trying to deal with addiction, they must learn as much as possible about it. There are various support groups that can be very useful as well as talking with therapists and counselors.

Giving an addict money to buy more drugs or alcohol is one of the top ways that an enabler supports an addiction. Many addicts are very good at manipulation, and when it comes to getting more of their substance of choice, they can be very creative for reasons why they need money. No matter what the addict may say they need the money for, once they receive it, it will be used to buy drugs or alcohol almost every time. Supporting an addict by giving them a place to stay, feeding them, and generally taking care of them is enabling. It may seem kind to pay for their rent, car, groceries, or legal matters, but it is only helping the addict to avoid the consequences of their actions.

No one is ever responsible for a person’s addiction, but the addict. Oftentimes, when a loved one tries to confront an addict about their addiction, they will blame their behavior on something that the loved one did or did not do, or on past events. They do this because they know it makes the loved one feel guilty. If an addict encounters a life crisis, they might be motivated to get treatment for their addiction, but only if someone else does not handle the situation for them. A life crisis can be anything from loosing employment to getting arrested; in general these events or situations will change the person’s life. This will also be one of the hardest times for an enabler not to help.

Anyone who is trying to stop enabling and move forward to getting help for someone should consider a possible intervention. Interventions are known to help get addicts into a rehab for treatment. If an intervention is not possible there is always therapy or counseling. for more information.