I have had a Schizophrenic Father sinceI was ten years old, although I only
found out in 2013 that he had schizophrenia. He is a total nightmare, even
though he lives in another country.
I have lost my job in London, and many friends, and moved to Thailand to get
away from him.
Then I bought a house, and got a new job, and yet he showed up in my life
You may ask how does he do this; first he got a friend of mine’s phone
number and pesters him until he passes on the number where I work. I have
found out that he spends six hours a day on computers, ringing people behind
my back to try and track me down.
I have tried everything, moved and not told anyone.I have lost three jobs in
Thailand because of him. He tracks me down in Thailand by calling Thai
people that speak English, he tells them that I do not take care of my
family. So then these people ask me why I don’t take care of him and don’t
always understand when I try to explain to them about schizophrenia.
It is like hitting your head against a wall, to have the same story every
When I was young I helped to run the farm when he was in hospital for two
This constant troublesome behavior has caused me depression. I rang the
police in the country where he lives but they said I had to make my
complaint to the Thai police! I don’t know what to do to stop this.
Troubled by schizophrenic father
Mental illness is a big problem, not just for those who are mentally ill but
also those who have to deal with the repercussions as you have. Emma assumes
the police where he lives want you to file a complaint with the Thai police
which can then be forwarded on to them. Honestly, however, Emma does not see
how much this will help. Usually police in most countries will not get
involved if there is no violence involved. Thai police most likely would not
take the complaint since it does not sound as though he is violating any
Emma would recommend that your best option would be to deal with his illness
head on. It sounds as though he has no other family but you, if this is the
case then your best option would be to try and contact his doctor and see
why he is not taking medication to treat his schizophrenia. If you have
family back home then ask them to help you get him treatment. If he is not
capable of taking care of himself then you may want to see about getting him
committed to a mental hospital.
This is a terrible dilemma and Emma understands your great difficulties in
coping with this issue but does not believe that the police will do anything
at all. Emma suggests contacting groups that help with schizophrenia in the
country where he lives and see if they can give you some advice on how to
deal with his problem there.
Annoying neighbor lady burning in the
I recently moved into an older mooban in the city and was astonished to find
the elderly lady next door burning leaves in the garden and in the street in
front of my house. I coughed loudly as I slammed my windows shut but it
didn’t faze her and she proceeded to light a few more.
This is very close to my house and the smoke comes straight into my windows.
How do I cope with this issue? I must confess I was shocked that in this day
and age she thinks it’s a good idea to burn her leaves! I must also add I
was surprised that she had so little consideration for her neighbors as to
burn right in front of their houses.
How do I cope with this problem?
Firstly, hints don’t work, your best option would be to go over there some
day, perhaps with some fruit and a smile and ask her nicely to not burn her
leaves. Offer to clear them for her if she will sweep them up.
Most elderly people have been using fire to get rid of leaves and other
natural wastes their entire lives. It probably doesn’t even cross her mind
that it is not acceptable, annoying and illegal. For her it is just a
natural way of doing things.
Instead of creating bad feelings with your neighbors, create good ones and
talk with her nicely and gently. Explain that you have breathing issues
(even if you don’t just say that you do, it will make her feel sympathetic)
and that the smoke makes you very ill. Then offer to help her remove the
leaves whenever she needs. Next time you see her sweeping be sure and go out
immediately with a big rubbish bag and start collecting the leaves. She will
appreciate your help and concern and it will become a habit for her to not
burn her leaves. Eventually she may even start helping you collect them too.
As the old saying goes, “You collect more flies with honey than you can with